We are all creatures of habits. To change a bad habit in a new good one, we need to get aware first, visualize the new good behavior we want achieve and we need physically go through the process of acting it out. The old habit will be automatically replaced if we repeat the new habit every day for 21 days and keep practicing it for another 42 days to form the new habit and replace the old one. Then do the same for another habit you want to change for the better and you will be proud of yourself when you succeed with it. Learning, challenging, growing and pushing myself is a interesting process I won’t miss in my life! How about you?
That is a book you can read more than one time. It has great life lessons and wisdom in it.
It is small and handy to fit in every handbag.
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS by Don Miguel Ruiz
In the four agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. The four agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom true happiness, and love.
I have this book a long time and I thought this is something we all can do to open our own eyes….this is from the book EMPOWERING WOMEN by Louise L. Hay
Reflections on Your Journey:
One of the first and most important exercises is to find out WHAT you believe. Put several full sheets of paper in your notebook, and label each one at the top:
WHAT I BELIEVE ABOUT…..
-Men – Women – Myself – Relationships – Commitment – Marriage – Family
-Children – Work – Money – Prosperity – Investments – Health – Aging – Death
These beliefs are the internal, subconscious rules you live your life by. You cannot make positive changes in your life until you can recognize the negative beliefs you hold.
When all of the lists are more or less completed, read them over. Mark with a star each belief that is nourishing and supportive of you. These beliefs are the ones you want to keep and reinforce.
Mark with a check each belief that is negative and detrimental to your goals. These are the beliefs that have been holding you back from being all that you can be. These are the beliefs you want to erase and reprogram.
Does the thought of responsibility drag you down? It doesn’t have to. Actually, taking 100% responsibility for yourself can be very freeing. What is difficult is when we place too much of our well being or happiness on someone else, like out partners, for example. When we choose to place our joy on what is outside of us, then we are not “running the day”. The wind or the waves are blowing us around and we feel out of control in our lives. I think of the mountain pose in yoga, where our feet are planted firmly in the earth and we are able to deal with what goes on around us. We remain stable.
Our partners can make us feel neglected by not giving us enough attention or hurt our feelings. When things like that happen, we do have a choice, several in fact. We can do nothing and keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves and suffer in silence, or we can become observers of our own behaviors and others, and learn to understand the situation better. Then we can acknowledge our feelings, express them and ask our partner for what we need. Hopefully, they will acknowledge our feelings and maybe change a behavior. But if they don’t, we can still choose to create our own happiness and take responsibility for it rather than go down the road feeling miserable. Choice is key and we are free to choose the kind of life we want.