Category Archives: 100% self responsibility


By Caroline Vogt

3 Questions that keeps me challenged, alive and on purpose:

What can I do today to make me happy?

What can I do today to make my family members happy?

What can I do today to make the world a better place?

Working it out

Posted by Linda

Conflict! There are plenty of opportunities to work out conflict in these highly agitated times. Or Not! I have read so many stories of people not speaking to family members any more, or of friendships and even marriages breaking apart over different ideas about what is going on in our political atmosphere these days. It’s really interesting how one man, albeit a very powerful, one can create such calamity. Many people, including myself, have very strong opinions about how our country is being run and by whom. Most of my friends and I agree about the subject in question, but not everyone and not every family member.

When it comes to a disagreement with someone that I don’t know very well, I might choose to let them go, but it has to be a fairly major difference, most likely in the area of honor or integrity. After all, we have heard so many times not to surround ourselves with toxic people. Under normal circumstances, the need to distance ourselves doesn’t happen very often, but it’s different now, with raw and strong emotions being elicited in our country.

However, I love a few of the people with whom I disagree. What is the best way to deal with this situation. First, I might feel irritated and if I allowed the irritation to continue, it could eventually lead to an irreversible break up of our relationship. So I learn the art of self soothing and eventually I can think clearly enough to make a decision about the relationship. If I choose to stay, I remind myself first, that this is a part of the way that they are, and that there are many other parts that I appreciate and love. And then, taking my time, and not being controlled by fear or anger, I decide.

Peace and love, that is my heart’s desire. Please contact me if you would like assistance finding yours.


Poste by Caroline

That is a book you can read more than one time. It has great life lessons and wisdom in it.

It is small and handy to fit in every handbag.

THE FOUR AGREEMENTS by   Don Miguel Ruiz

In the four agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. The four agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom true happiness, and love.



Posted by Caroline

I have this book a long time and I thought this is something we all can do to open our own eyes….this is from the book EMPOWERING WOMEN by Louise L. Hay

Reflections on Your Journey:The beautiful Maldives

General Guidelines:

One of the first and most important exercises is to find out WHAT you believe. Put several full sheets of paper in your notebook, and label each one at the top:


-Men  – Women  –  Myself  – Relationships  –  Commitment  –  Marriage   – Family

-Children  – Work  –  Money  – Prosperity  –  Investments  – Health  – Aging   – Death

These beliefs are the internal, subconscious rules you live your life by. You cannot make positive changes in your life until you can recognize the negative beliefs you hold.

When all of the lists are more or less completed, read them over.  Mark with a star each belief that is nourishing and supportive of you. These beliefs are the ones you want to keep and reinforce.

Mark with a check each belief that is negative and detrimental to your goals. These are the beliefs that have been holding you back from being all that you can be. These are the beliefs you want to erase and reprogram.


Love this Book!

I love “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero. I first found out about this book from my daughter. I picked it up and was quickly taken in by the interesting and funny style. What is it about? Becoming your authentic self, standing up for you and growing the confidence to do it. I especially loved the story about bowling and throwing the ball backwards. I did that! The author tells you exactly how to become a badass. It is such an empowering self help book. I highly recommend it.


By Linda

Total Responsibility

Posted by Linda

In any relationship or situation, taking 100% responsibility for your choices, how you treat others and yourself, is essential. Doing so requires inner growth, so that you do not rely on anyone else’s opinion about your value, but your own. When you are able to do this, you no longer become dependent on the winds that toss you about. You develop an anchor, you! You become free to be yourself, not out of egotism or narcissism, but knowing who you are and loving that person.

Let’s say that you are in a relationship, it may be new or you may have been together for 15 years, and you are dependent on your partner to make you happy. Think about it. It is a scary choice, but we learn growing up that our partners are supposed to make us happy. Although your partner may love you very much, they do have their own needs and wants and ideas about how a relationship should be. And surprise, they may not be as self sacrificing in a relationship as you expected. Suppose that there is something very important to you and you even share that information with them, but they let you down. You don’t go on a trip or have the romantic dinner together that you planned. What do you do? Do you sink into depression or become angry and resentful towards them? Hopefully not, because those are two things that may lead you down the path to a very unhappy relationship.

No, you take responsibility for your own happiness, by being honest with your partner about how you feel, talk about a plan that will be suitable for you both, and if nothing can be worked out, deal with you own feelings through self talk and self care.

Any questions or comments?