Posted by Linda
Moms, what do you want for Mother’s Day. It’s only one week away and if there is something that you really desire and you know that you will be utterly disappointed if it doesn’t happen, then what can you do to increase your chances of having the kind of day that pleases you? Well, there are a couple of choices. You can say nothing because you know your family and they have a high percentage of figuring out what would make you happy…Or you can say nothing and then when your expectations are high and nothing even close to what you had in mind happens. Well, Need I say more. What has taken me a long time to learn, and even now, I don’t come close to being perfect, is asking for what I want. People are not mind readers, even those nearest and dearest to us. Communicating our needs and wants is actually very helpful because it eliminates the guessing game and stress of not exactly knowing how to please someone you love. Talking is the way. Respectfully requesting can become a custom in your family, followed by negotiation if the request is impossible to fulfill.
I heard a story about a father asking his daughter what kind of pizza she wanted when she came to visit him. She would always answer whatever you want. One year, the daughter told her father that she wanted pepperoni and he said to her, “Oh thank goodness you finally told me. I would always be so stressed when it came time to make a decision. Thank you, now I know”.
This year, it might be good to take the stress off your family and yourself by communicating. Happy Mother’s Day!